Some Pieces of Advice from Joycee

Music of my Heart
N’Sync with Gloria Estefan

♪♫ You opened the door to something I’ve never known before
And your love is the music of my heart  ♪♫

Heya everybody! This is Joycee from www.joyceish.com at habang busy pa si Kuya Buyoy sa kung anu-anong mga bagay, ako muna ang madadatnan niyo dito hehe.

Hinde ko talaga alam kung ano ang iba-blog ko dito, sabi ni Kuya Buyoy about relationships daw since he’s getting married na. I guess it’s too broad kaya nahihirapan ako. Pero sabi nya basta gawa nalang daw ako ng message for him bago sya magpatali.

Una kong nakausap si Kuya Buyoy sa Plurk. Hinde ko alam kung sino ang nag-add ng sino; hinde ko talaga alam pano ko sya naging friend dun. Naging kakulitan namen sya dun ni Helena along with Kuya Pots, Ate Libay, Aleng et al. Nagpalitan ng YM ids at blog URLs, at dun na nagsimula ang walang hanggang daily kwentuhan namen.

Sa araw-araw kong nakakausap ko si Kuya Buyoy, usually sa umaga pagdating nya sa work (na kakauwe ko lang) o kaya sa gabi bago sya matulog (na kakarating ko lang naman sa office), bihira ko syang nakakausap ng matagal. Kadalasan busy sya sa work o kaya kakanood ng movie pag gabi, hihi. Simula ng nakilala ko si Kuya Buyoy nung January, madami akong natutunan sa kanya, mga techie stuff like pagdodownload ng movies (supplier ko sya ng download movies hehe), iba-ibang operating systems, cellphone stuff etc. Pero bukod sa mga yan eh ang pinakapaboritong ituro saken ni Kuya ay ang field ng pag-ibig. *alam nya kaseng shungaers ako dun haha.

You should not give up on love, ’cause it will never ever give up on you.

We all can see how much Kuya Buyoy is happy with Ate Archie, kaya nga nagdecide silang magpakasal na eh. ‘Cause they just love each other and they want to be together forever. Pero naniniwala ako, love alone, is not enough to make a relationship work. Kaya this time Kuya Buyoy, hayaan mong sermunan kita. Sigurado ako alam mo na ‘tong mga bagay na ‘to, kunyari lang magaling ako sa field na ‘to. Tutal ang tawag mo saken eh Pastora. Akala mo kase napakabait ako pero hinde mo alam maarte at demonyita ako. *evil laugh*

- Kapag nagkaron kayo ng argument, do not hold grudges and do not pinpoint kung sinu ang tama at kung sino ang mali. Get over it! Be sure to fix it before the day ends.

- Before you go to sleep, no matter how tired you are, be sure each one will mention something that you’re grateful for the day, could be anything about your work, friends, anything under the sun. The point here is to end the day in a good mood.

- Listening and understanding are two totally different things. It’s not enough that you just listen to your partner, but learn how to read between the lines din.

- No matter who’s wrong or who’s right, try nyo lang to sleep while holding each other’s hands. Sweet!

- Have fun! Don’t be too adultish (parang joyceish lang) all the time. Enjoy each other’s company and try to some childish stuff together. =)

- Remember that it is OKAY that you don’t always agree to each other. You are two different people with two different points of view so it is just fine to have different opinions.

- At least once a week try to do something special for or with each other. Hinde naman kelangan lageng mahal eh, pwedeng simpleng “I Love You” note lang, okay na yun. =)

- Don’t ever criticize each other in public – the world should know that you believe that both of you are perfect in each other’s eyes.

- Keep some wedding photos handy or on the wall. It is a good way to get you back to thinking the way you love this person and married them in the first place.

- Say thank you to each other often even for the smallest things.

- Wag pakelaman ang cellphone ng isa’t-isa unless magpapasaload ka. This is a test of trust na din. =)

- Don’t stop flirting with each other. Maglandian pa din kayo kahet may mga wrinkles na kayo!

- Hinde porke ikinasal kayo eh wala na kayong sari-sariling buhay. You are still your own person. You still need to have a life of your own so take time for other friends as well. You must continue to pursue your passions independently with support from each other. Don’t think that something is tearing your apart if it isn’t.

- You can’t change your mate; the only person you can change is you. So ask God to help you examine yourself. You may find that making positive changes within you creates the change you were looking for in each other.

- Pray together. Put God in the center of your relationship. I guess this is the most important kase if your future kids will see you praying together, most likely magiging ganun din sila. =)

Colossians 3:18 -19

“Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.”

Alam mo Kuya hinde ‘to madali ha. Tinanong ko kay Manong Gugel yung iba tas inedit at dinagdagan ko din. Tapos naginterbyu din ako sa mga officemates kong may mga asawa na. So I hope I’m making myself clear na hinde po ako expert sa field na ‘to. I am a pretender, hehe.

Basta alam mo naman siguro Kuya na I am just an IM away. Pwede mo din akong tawagan, you have my number naman, pero this time di na uubra yung prank call mo, wahahaha. O kaya conference tayo sa YM ni Helena. Tapos share-share ulet ng mga fechurs hihi. =)

Labyu Kuya and I am so grateful that I’ve found a big brother in you here in the blogosphere. I’ve never had a Kuya kaya naman lahat ng guys na nami-meet ko dito ay tinuturing ko na Kuya, madami na nga kayong Kuya ko dito, hehe. I pray that God will continue to bless you relationship with Ate Archie and He will shower you with many blessings *and many cute kids na din, hihi.

Lots of love,

~ by joycee on March 15, 2009.